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post #1 of 29 (permalink) Old 05-31-2013, 09:50 AM Thread Starter
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My Vizsla hates my husband.

Flint is about 9 months old now, and is having some behavior issues, mainly with my husband. I am at a total loss what to do with him! He acts out so much when my husband is home from work that I am going insane. Unfortunately, my husband is not particularly fond of Flint, either, so the feeling is mutual between the two of them. I find myself standing up for the dog when he's being scolded too harshly, but that is probably making him (the dog) feel as though he can get away with whatever it is he was doing in the first place.

Things Flint has done specifically to anger my husband:
-Follow him to the bathroom and pee on the cupboard next to him while he's brushing his teeth. Flint is FULLY potty trained and had just peed outside.
-Barks if anything "romantic" starts happening
- Will not listen to my husband's commands to lay down, but if I say it, he does it instantly.
- Wakes my husband specifically at 5 AM every morning to potty. Which is actually a little funny, since Flint's bed is on MY side. I can hear him get up and walk to the other side to wake him. (I do intercept on days my husband doesn't need to get up soon for work anyways, I'm not heartless)

I know that Flint is still a puppy and needs more consistency than he's getting right now, and he needs more training. He used to get training from both my husband and I, but now all he gets is scorn from my husband, and then he's just at this ridiculously hyper stage for me that I can't handle when I try to train him. He settles down after walks, but then he sleeps, so I leave him be. By the time he wakes up, usually he's calm for the rest of the day and training has slipped my mind.

Flint isn't just a dog to me. He's not just a dog to my toddler either. They are practically siblings. They snuggle and watch bedtime movies together. They get into mischief together. They chase the cat together. I have tried to explain this to my husband, and he's just angry because he loves his darn cat. (Don't get me started on the cat!!)

Oh goodness. What do I do?
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Re: My Vizsla hates my husband.

I don't mean this to sound wrong, but it sounds like the problem is your husband. Can't be sure with out knowing you, but I'm sure the dog can sence he dosnt like him and the anger coming from him.

Train your husband and I'm sure Flint will get better.

Have the two of them done any classes togeather, that can help them bond better, and astablish a leadership role.

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Re: My Vizsla hates my husband.

I'm really hoping to get into classes with Flint when we get back to the States, but we haven't done any at all. We are stationed in Italy because my husband is in the military and we aren't fluent in Italian, so even if there were classes, we couldn't understand them.

My husband has been very unhappy recently (work related), and we are moving soon, so I can imagine that Flint can sense all of that. Would having them walk together help? That's about all the time my husband ever has outside of work these days. Or should they focus on training?

I don't take offense, I do realize my husband is a lot of the problem. I am usually on Flint's side of the argument, but that has been causing a huge rift in my marriage.
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Re: My Vizsla hates my husband.

I can understand that. I do remeber now reading in one of your posts that you were overseas.

Yes walks can help for a bond, and help a little at the same time. Maybe if you can find a DVD or a book for your husband in the mean time. Just teaching basic comands with some treats even if it is over and over may help. The worst thing to do is getting frustrated and take it out on the pup, he will regress.

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I'm no vizsla expert and I'm not Cesar Milan, but it sounds like Flint respects you as the pack leader and your husband is just...there. Being that Flint won't listen to his commands and marked near him I would say that Flint is trying to show his dominance and show that he is more of the alpha than your husband.

I would suggest working on bonding activities with the dog and your husband (like training) so that Flint starts to understand and respect that your husband has a position higher in the pack than he does. Building that bond between the two will help to establish the leadership role that Gary is talking about and should start to get Flint to respect your husbands position in your "pack." However, I think before any of that can happen you really need to sit down with your husband and hash out what it is that is causing him to not really like Flint. Having this divide in the house between you loving the dog and him being able to care less about him will really put a damper on being able to build that relationship- if your husband doesn't want it then it's pretty hard to develop. I would also think that Flint is able to pick up on it as well.

I would also suggest working on consistency within your household. Get on a routine with Flint- go for a walk as a family after your husband gets home, do 15 minutes of training in the evening, go to an obedience class, anything to get a routine going that will start to build that consistency that I think Flint needs. Also, a tired dog is a great dog to train. You mentioned that he's too hyper for you- he definitely needs more exercise. Especially before you train him. Try to do some basic obedience after a nice long walk or after a run off leash and he'll be more apt to pay attention to you and listen. Trying to train a dog that is bouncing off the walls is just asking for trouble, in my opinion. Vs can be crazy and difficult during the teenage stage so you really have to step it up and put in the effort to make sure they are getting the training and guidance that they need when they challenge you or else you'll be taking steps backward in their training.

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Re: My Vizsla hates my husband.

Gary - thank you for your responses. This forum is such a wonderful resource.

I will talk to my husband when get gets home about taking Flint on a one on one walk every day and hopefully it will help their relationship. I just hope it doesn't cause more resentment because then he has another "chore" because of the dog, if that makes any sense. When they get back we'll all do the training together when Flint's good and tired.

After we got Flint, my husband realized that he really doesn't like dogs because he thinks that they are stupid. Because they aren't like cats. We have this conversation a lot actually. The dog he grew up with had been rescued from an abusive home and was very timid. You couldn't glare at her without her cowering, so I believe my headstrong Flint is just rubbing him the wrong way. KB87 - I think you are correct on the dominance issue, I do hope that the one on one walks will help a little. Flint is such a wonderful dog, even with all his energy, and even though he's sure a handful, I would never ever say he's stupid. I hope time alone with him will help my husband see this.

My husband's schedules keep flip-flopping, from days to nights (weekly, yuck!), and we are in the process of an international move, so you are very right about the need for a routine - for ALL of us. Flint probably more so than any of us, so I will work on that pronto. =) We do take him on hikes and off leash walks as well as on leash, plus we have a large yard that we play fetch in, but the weather has been awful here lately, so I do admit we haven't done as much as we would if it were nicer.
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Good luck!

P.S. My Vizsla s are much smarter than my cats! I can teach them anything.

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Re: My Vizsla hates my husband.

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he or she even you ;D will like him more

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Re: My Vizsla hates my husband.

Be careful of the cat situation. Your V is either going to decide the cat is part of the household or that it is prey. Given how much your husband loves the cat, you may want to take steps sooner rather than later to keep the cat from getting hurt.

Since your husband likes cats so much, you might try asking him if he sees any cat-like behavior from Flint. For instance, Savannah and my cat usually groom at the same time. I get home, turn on the news, they each go to 'their' spot - across the room from each other - and each decides it's time to lick the day from fur and paws. It's pretty cute.
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Re: My Vizsla hates my husband.

What is your body language or demeanor when your husband and Flint interact with each other? What if you were to take a step back and let your husband have more responsibility with Flint? When I first got Oquirrh (now 2 yrs old) I would want so badly to interfere with the way my partner scolded or disciplined Oquirrh. But at the same time, I didn't want Oquirrh to have a negative attitude towards my partner because of the way I reacted. I had to teach myself to take a step back and let their relationship work itself out. To me it sounds like you may need to take a step back and your husband needs to step forward. A perfect way for your husband to gain respect is by taking Flint for long, leashed walks. As for your comment about Flint being "ridiculously hyper"; he's a Vizsla!!!! Sounds like he needs more outlet for his energy. Let the boy run, off leash, to his heart's desire and you will probably see a huge difference.
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