Not being a long time V expert, or an expert in this field at all. We picked a male for our first V two years ago. We got very luck and found an exceptional breeder in the Chicago area who's been breeding V's for 45+ years. So we were confident about the over health, etc.
To that end, in full transparency, we did rush and were not able to really "pick" or discuss our needs for a V with the breeder. Fully our fault and not the breeders fault. Because of work demands spring through fall we wanted a V in September-December timeframe and the breeder just so happen to have a litter on the ground so we jumped at the chance (September 2017 born and pick up November). That being said, we got last pick male. Milo has been FANTASTIC in ever way, is incredibly smart and is a stud of a male. BUT he does require a ton of exercise and luckily I can bring him to work every day and he roams the 160-acre property at will. But did I say he loves to run and run and run, endlessly. Working is his main priority morning until night. He is a clinger, but not a snuggler.
Fast forward to this summer, after our beloved lab pasted away, we wanted another companion and we were pretty confident we wanted another V. So we called the breeder back up and she had another litter planned for mid summer (with the litter being a half sibling to Milo which is pretty cool). Not ideal time, but we were early to call and hence started the process much earlier working with the breeder. We wanted a female and we were very persistent on temperament. We wanted to calmest female V of the litter and she said she would have no problem helping us. There were (6) females and we spend over two hours the day of pick up working with the breeder and the 6-pups. We ended up with an incredibly lovely female who simply likes companionship, being around a lot of people and to be cuddled for hours on end. Running and exercising are second to companionship, which is a nice change from our male.
Soooooo....I apologize for getting winded. My feeling is not so much male vs female, BUT I strongly suggest working with a reputable breeder very early and discuss your top priorities on what you're looking for in a V. And be realistic with yourself. I wanted a "working" dog and with our male we found one, but at a cost which is constant need to be outside and "working". We love both our V's and wouldn't change a thing, but you need to be realistic with your goals, lifestyle, needs, etc or you'll be handcuffed with a dog that you may or may not be able to handle or be happy with......FWIW.