Thanks Texasred. I see now as I am looking around there are other threads to post my above question, but 'ya know it said my first post went here so that's what I did. Every week Abe is better at following the rules and calming down, and I have implemented a new bathroom routine.... I still go out but I don't go onto the grass, I stay back on the patio and encourage him to go. Giving him more and more invisible leash in a way and its working. I will see if it's still a problem in a few months, I just have hopes he will determine when he has to go out on his own without encouragement. Maybe the light bulb will come on like after potty training a kid and they run to the bathroom all by themselves. Once he figures out he is in control of going out the dog door on his own for that purpose maybe it will become habit.