What do you do, when you see those signs?
They are classic for a dog that will bite. If pushed in that frame of mind.
Deb, As you have said, we have learned to tell the difference between mouthy, and when he is correcting us. Being mouthy is a loving action he does towards us while playing and snuggling.
We have spoken about some of the aggression issues we have had with Miko in the past, and we have seen an improvement in a few areas. We have also not made any progress in others. We have not made any progress with his food guarding. We tried months and months of small steps, but still, when he is eating, he has his tail tucked and head down, and is very skittish. Any interruption to his eating is not a good thing, and if you call him away from his food and make him stay (not go back) he will submissively pee. We will not let the kids near him while eating. But, I regress, you asked what we do when he does it while in his bed.
We have found the best way to do it, is from a distance, not standing over him. If he wakes to you towering over him, he instantly enters submissive mode. If we make sure to wake him from a distance, we then call him to come to us. when we do this, he will react one of two ways.
1. He gets up, mosies on over to us and comes in for a pet. We then can send him to his kennel and everything is good.
2. He opens his eyes and looks at us and ignores. We then have 3 options:
a. Keep giving the come command each time more vigorous until he obeys (I don't like this one. I was always told don't give a command you can't enforce)
b. Walk over and softly grab his caller, while talking very gently, and help guide him from the bed to his kennel. (this is not my favorite way to do it, he will always react with pupils dilated, roll on back, and tail tucked, and has even bit at my wife when she was attempting.)
c. If he is still wearing his e-collar, I give him the command, if he ignores it, a very light stimulation, and he usually obeys well enough with no problems. Usually after a day of this, he does pretty well to obey no problem for a couple days. I think he remembers pretty well.
CFS, the reason I asked about the tail tucked, and the pupils is because in my experience, this is a sure sign that the dog is very uncomfortable, and could be pushed past her limits any second. Your husband grabbing her and forcing to do something, or your forcing her out of bed by hand is probably a bad idea in these moments.